What’s totally different this time? | Nerd Health
Right this moment is probably the most hope and optimism-filled day of the yr.
That’s nice!
No matter targets or resolutions you’ve set for your self, I’m excited for you!
We’re all attempting to higher ourselves, and regardless that issues haven’t labored out the way in which we wished them to up to now, we hope this time might be totally different.
Musician Nick Cave describes hope as “optimism with a damaged coronary heart,” and I feel that’s superbly correct. We’re all attempting to be totally different when change is so rattling laborious.
In the event you’re attempting to construct a brand new exercise behavior or change the quantity on the dimensions this yr, I salute you. Setting a aim to alter may be very commendable.
However to offer ourselves the very best probability of conducting our aim, we should mix the aim with some self-reflection and self-awareness.
Listed here are TWO inquiries to ask your self as we start 2025…
Query 1: What’s totally different this time?
I’m pleased with you for beginning once more.
However what’s totally different about this try?
In the event you do what you’ve at all times performed, you’ll get what you’ve at all times bought.
The most effective predictor of future habits is previous habits.
In the event you decide the identical aim or technique that you simply tried (unsuccessfully) up to now, the top end result would be the identical: one other misplaced yr of “why can’t I get my act collectively?”
So, be deliberate about what’s totally different this time!
Don’t simply “go on XYZ weight loss program” or “surrender all sugar endlessly” or “prepare for a marathon” once more, particularly for those who’ve tried these issues earlier than and couldn’t persist with them.
One thing needs to be totally different this time:
- Make fewer modifications.
- Decide ONE aim and deal with it.
- Decide a distinct exercise routine.
- Decide a distinct weight loss program or vitamin change.
- Decide a distinct time of day to work out.
- Recruit a pal to hitch you so that you’re not doing it alone.
- Make your new desired habits helpful or vital.
Show to your self you’ve discovered one thing out of your previous makes an attempt. Don’t let previous failures be in useless – they confirmed you what doesn’t work for you.
Strive one thing totally different this time!
Query 2: What are you afraid of?
You’re stuffed with momentum proper now, and that’s nice.
However three weeks from now, life will occur, and one thing will go mistaken.
What has been your tendency when this occurs up to now?
We ask each NF Teaching Consumer earlier than they begin, “What are you most nervous about?”
That reply is one thing they’re conscious of on account of their previous makes an attempt:
Are you going to get busy and resolve “to take a break till issues decelerate?” Nice! Now you realize when that little voice in your head says this, you possibly can put together for it, plan to do one thing otherwise, and resolve that you simply don’t have to take heed to that voice in your head.
Are you going to have one dangerous day and go completely off the rails? Nice! Now you realize that when you have got one dangerous day, you possibly can forgive your self, not look again in anger or guilt, and get proper again on monitor.
Are you going to surrender regardless that you actually actually actually wish to push by? Nice! This occurs to all of us when motivation wanes after just a few weeks. Take into account including a Ulysses Pact to protect towards your weaknesses or having a bet with a pal to maintain you accountable.
NF Coach Matt Myers was lately on the Psychological Golf Podcast with Josh Nichols – and on the 24:30 mark within the episode, Matt identified one thing to Josh that shocked him:
“You advised me earlier than you began, ‘I do know I’m going to return out of the gates HARD, however about 3 weeks in, I’m going to burn out and disappear.’
And I stated, ‘Thanks for letting me know,’ and I had all these alarms and alerts able to test in with you repeatedly across the 21 day mark!”
Josh had the self-awareness to know the place he would screw up sooner or later, he and Coach Matt deliberate for it, and bought over the hump collectively.
Since then, they’ve labored collectively for 2 months (and counting), and Josh has solely missed a single day of checking in and lacking at some point didn’t trigger Josh’s regular “all-or-nothing” habits to kick in!
This time CAN be totally different
All of us got down to change, and even after we’re self-aware…
We regularly chew off greater than we will chew:
Our targets and hopes usually exceed the truth that we’re fallible, busy, sophisticated people residing unpredictable lives.
That’s okay!
If we’re conscious of these items, if we will strive otherwise…then even when this subsequent try doesn’t work both, we will take away that technique from the listing of potential profitable paths, and check out once more.
That’s all life is anyway: strive, fail, modify, restart.
-Steve
PS: In the event you don’t wish to go on this journey alone, I’d be honored for those who try the NF Teaching Program.
Our coaches are superior and we’d love that can assist you attain your targets. We’ve had a TON of sign-ups these previous few days, which has me actually excited to assist so many new folks.
